Forgiving is really about letting go of thoughts that make you feel miserable. It is not about condoning actions against you but rather about loving yourself enough to let your judgements go.
Life is always bringing you what you need in order to learn the truth about yourself and supply growth for your highest good.
The Anger Therapy Program will:
- Help you overcome emotions of rage, resentment, frustration, pride, aggression, irritation and shame Release you from the need to always be right
- Help you to no longer beat yourself up or hold on to old hurts and pain
- Assist you to let go of wanting to control others and your environment
- Release you to start operating from a calm and peaceful place so that other people no longer avoid you
- Help you to no longer take things so personally and feel free to be playful and relaxed
- Assist you in being more approachable and relaxed
- Show you how to master your reactive emotions so that you are no longer at the mercy of emotional outbursts
- Help you function with patience and understanding for others and situations that are unfolding during your day
- Ensure you no longer feel overwhelmed in situations so you can respond with a clear and calm mind
- Help you overcome any inner conflict you have about yourself
- Improve your sense of self so you can be capable and effective in your actions
- Ensure you experience more inner peace daily and stop fighting with yourself and others
- Enable you to express your concerns and needs clearly and calmly without hurting others or trying to control them
- Help you have control of your emotions so you create the actual results you want in your life
- Ensure you gain back control of your actions and experience more harmonious relationships
Some physical signs of anger include:
- clenching your jaws or grinding your teeth
- stomach aches, fatigue
- increased and rapid heart rate
- sweating, especially your palms
- feeling hot in the neck/face
- shaking or trembling
- dizziness, tingling
- headaches
- heart palpitations or tightening of the chest
- increased blood pressure
Emotionally you may feel:
- like you want to get away from the situation
- irritated
- sad or depressed
- guilty
- resentful
- anxious
- like striking out verbally or physically
- judgemental
- vengeful
- frustrated
Also, you may notice that you are:
- rubbing your head
- cupping your fist with your other hand
- pacing
- getting sarcastic
- losing your sense of humour
- acting in an abusive or abrasive manner
- craving a drink, a smoke or other substances that relax you
- raising your voice
- beginning to yell, scream or cry
What Are the Signs of an Anger Management Problem?
Name-calling Criticizing, belittling and putting down
Lack of patience Irritability and short temper
Blaming everyone and everything else People avoid you
When you get angry you shut down or withdraw Frequently experience negative thoughts
Others experience you as a Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde personality Often ponder aggressive acts of violence
Often feel misunderstood and like no one “gets” you Act out in violence first, without thinking of the consequences
Domestic violence, fist fights, aggressive driving and road rage Break or destroy objects when you become angry or frustrated
Use violence and screaming to control others and force them to submit Enjoy violent and dramatic situations
Become easily frustrated with other people and the world around you
Frequently find yourself in a situation where you become confrontational and violent
Lose relationships or prefer to live in tumultuous relationships that are chaotic and fraught with argument
Refuse to accept that you have an anger issue that is out of control which requires anger management therapy
Never feel fully satisfied with anything that you have and constantly blame those around you for your own issues
Partner, kids, family members and people are afraid to talk to you. They feel like they’re walking on eggshells around you
Display acts of road rage by yelling and screaming at other drivers when driving and blaming other drivers on the road for your feelings
Verbal abuse including temper tantrums, verbal rage reactions, bullying, intimidation and browbeating (to intimidate with abusive words)
Have been reprimanded at your workplace or day job in the past for acting out of control and above the rules, due to your inability to control your temper
Passive-aggressive behaviour includes a pattern of sarcasm and deliberate emotional neglect or coldness towards loved ones (better known as the silent treatment)